the Soul's Desire for Connection
The Weekly Word #17 ~ Christman, 2007
Have you ever thought about your need for relationship and connection
with others of your species? From the beginning of human time, we
have lived in families, tribes, communities, villages, and other
close forms of relationships with each other. Humans are herd animals--
historically we have never lived alone, in fact, until quite recently,
we could not have survived alone.
The villages and communities have evolved over
time, and now have slowly broken down from large extended family
relationships to what seemed to be the basic form, the family of
man/ woman/ child. Now we find even that form breaking down, with
a majority of families coming apart, and children being raised in
single-parent households. Many people live alone without any significant
personal relationships at all.
None of this evolution has changed the need of
humans to relate and be in community. If you see the violence in
the daily news, you are seeing the results of individuals getting
lost in the dream, without anyone close to them to say, "Hey,
come back, you are too close to the edge."
Here in this village of Chacala, Mexico where
I am living now and writing this, it is very unusual for anyone
to live alone (except us gringos). This is a country of family and
community. Once a week the parents and kids are out raking and cleaning
the school grounds together, burning piles of leaves, laughing,
and telling the stories that bond them as community.
The weather here is always warm, so people are
out and about, seeing and visiting with the same neighbors and relatives
that they see every day, and have known all their lives. They know
if someone is having trouble, and they accept and love them-- they
are held at the bosom of community.
I think that holidays like Christmas, and the
special celebration times of all religions and cultures, are important
because they are times for us to return to our connection with families
and communities. We make pilgrimages to family homes, gather with
relatives and friends, and celebrate in community.
It is unfortunate that people who have isolated
themselves from those connections suffer even more at these times,
because it reminds them of their soul's yearning for connection,
and their inability to connect or the absence of close connections.
My wish for you this season of life is that you are connected to
community, people, love, and Life, in whatever way and form is appropriate
Celebrate Life. Celebrate Love and connection.
Be present, really present, with yourself and others.
Many of us have created and celebrate with spiritual
communities, as a replacement for the broken connections of family
and place. If you are longing for a deeper connection with like-minded
souls, I invite you to explore TACO, Joydancer.com's online community,
where we are "Creating Spiritual Community Through Love in
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