Here in our Toltec Wisdom
Circle in Santa Rosa, CA, we made a wood and brass desk plaque
that says "Tengo la Culpa." It is Spanish for "It
is my fault." Each week, someone takes the plaque home,
and for that week, everything is their fault.
Think about it. What
would it be like for you to not defend yourself, or blame anyone
else, or try to justify your actions? What would it be like
to say "Yes, it is my fault." It is often a very powerful
experience for whoever has Tengo la Culpa for the week. It shifts
the energy in relationships of all kinds. It challenges the
structure of the Personal Dream.
Most conflict arises
when one person's dream is different than another person's,
and both people think their dream is "right." In order
to remain right, they must prove the other person is wrong.
We see this effect in wars, gang fights, legal disputes, and
relationships all the time. "For me to be right, you have
to be wrong."
Tengo la Culpa says
"You are right. It is my fault." Conflict ends. Resistance
ends. Arguing ends. It works in the inner world, too. If your
inner Judge makes you wrong for something you said or did, try
saying "you are right." No defense. Tengo la Culpa.
Being right is highly
over-rated. "Tengo la Culpa" can be a potent act of
power for the Spiritual Warrior.
Give it a try. I am
interested in hearing about your experience.