Tengo la Culpa
Tengo la Culpa says "You are right. It is my fault." Conflict ends.
Here in our Toltec Wisdom Circle in Santa Rosa, CA, we made a wood and brass desk plaque that says "Tengo la Culpa." It is Spanish for "It is my fault." Each week, someone takes the plaque home, and for that week, everything is their fault.

Think about it. What would it be like for you to not defend yourself, or blame anyone else, or try to justify your actions? What would it be like to say "Yes, it is my fault." It is often a very powerful experience for whoever has Tengo la Culpa for the week. It shifts the energy in relationships of all kinds. It challenges the structure of the Personal Dream.

Most conflict arises when one person's dream is different than another person's, and both people think their dream is "right." In order to remain right, they must prove the other person is wrong. We see this effect in wars, gang fights, legal disputes, and relationships all the time. "For me to be right, you have to be wrong."

Tengo la Culpa says "You are right. It is my fault." Conflict ends. Resistance ends. Arguing ends. It works in the inner world, too. If your inner Judge makes you wrong for something you said or did, try saying "you are right." No defense. Tengo la Culpa.

Being right is highly over-rated. "Tengo la Culpa" can be a potent act of power for the Spiritual Warrior.

Give it a try. I am interested in hearing about your experience.



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Allan Hardman is an author and expert on personal and spiritual transformation, relationships, emotional healing-- and a Toltec Master in the lineage of don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements.™ Allan teaches in Sonoma County, CA, and from “The House of the Eagles,” his winter home in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico. He guides Journeys of the Spirit to sacred sites in Mexico, and hosts wellness vacations in Chacala. He is the author of The Everything Toltec Wisdom Book, and co-author of two books with Deepak Chopra, Caroline Myss, Dr. Andrew Weil, Prince Charles, and others. Visit Allan’s extensive website at www.joydancer.com, and TACO, his online spiritual membership community.