Here Live da' Judge
An Apprentice in TACO told me this story recently. . .


An Apprentice in TACO told me this story recently, and we decided it would be fun to pass it on. One can only smile at how our Inner Judge is able to find fault, in spite of common sense or rational logic:

Whenever she was cleaning up her kitchen, The Apprentice would be quietly angry at her husband for not helping with the dishes. One night she discovered some plates that were not washed well, and she had to clean them over again. In that moment, she heard herself judging her husband for not paying attention and not doing a better job when he washed the dishes.

The Apprentice had enough self-awareness to catch herself in her contradiction: She could have one of these judgements, but she could not have both. Her husband could not be guilty of never washing dishes AND washing them carelessly. In her moment of clarity she found laughter, and released her husband from both judgments-- and the subtle punishments that had accompanied them.

By releasing her unconscious judgments, The Apprentice was free to initiate a conversation with her husband which resulted in more communication and mutual support in their relationship.

The moral of the story? Of course, it is that the more aware we become of the "Mitote" in our minds, AND the more acceptance and humor we can find in our own folly, the more love that we can bring to our lives and our relationships. The Apprentice has dedicated herself to exploring ALL of her inner dialog, and consciously choosing her beliefs and attitudes.

If that is a goal in YOUR life, I believe this Toltec path offers many valuable and powerful tools to make that dream a reality. Here at and TACO we are dedicated to supporting your journey of awakening.



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Allan Hardman is an author and expert on personal and spiritual transformation, relationships, emotional healing-- and a Toltec Master in the lineage of don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements.™ Allan teaches in Sonoma County, CA, and from “The House of the Eagles,” his winter home in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico. He guides Journeys of the Spirit to sacred sites in Mexico, and hosts wellness vacations in Chacala. He is the author of The Everything Toltec Wisdom Book, and co-author of two books with Deepak Chopra, Caroline Myss, Dr. Andrew Weil, Prince Charles, and others. Visit Allan’s extensive website at, and TACO, his online spiritual membership community.