Passionate Involvement Without Attachment to the Outcome
No matter how happy one might feel ... if there is the attachment. . .
then fear will be present.


The Toltec, holding the intention to be free, stalks those places where fear denies personal freedom. One such place is the attachment to the outcome of relationships, events, and to life itself. No matter how happy one might feel when he or she has found the perfect mate, or manifested the ideal job, or created excellent health or the perfect self image... if there is the attachment to holding onto the mate, job, health, or self image, then fear will be present.

It is something like building a big bright fire in the woods to keep the hungry wolves away. As long as the fire is bright, the fear is forgotten. But the wolves have not gone away. As the fire dies down, as the love, the job, the health, or the image begins to lose its warm glow, the wolves begin to close in. The fear is always there, stalking, waiting.

There is only true freedom when the fear of change has been replaced by acceptance of What Is. There can only be passionate involvement in Life when there is not the fear of loss and the attachment to outcomes. No matter how big and bright you build your fires, if the wolves are still there you will never be truly present to enjoy the warmth and safety.

Without the fear, without the wolves waiting, you are free to build your fires, and to enjoy them with all of Life's passion.

"To the eternal happiness of the humanity."



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Allan Hardman is an author and expert on personal and spiritual transformation, relationships, emotional healing-- and a Toltec Master in the lineage of don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements.™ Allan teaches in Sonoma County, CA, and from “The House of the Eagles,” his winter home in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico. He guides Journeys of the Spirit to sacred sites in Mexico, and hosts wellness vacations in Chacala. He is the author of The Everything Toltec Wisdom Book, and co-author of two books with Deepak Chopra, Caroline Myss, Dr. Andrew Weil, Prince Charles, and others. Visit Allan’s extensive website at, and TACO, his online spiritual membership community.